Growing up, students have been reared under the influence of their parents, and many have adopted their opinions and world views. But as students make the transition to adulthood, they are confronted with the task of making their own decisions and determining what parts of their identity they want to keep or change.
Foothill College psychology professor Nick Tuttle said it can be difficult for children to discover their identity does not match with their parents’ world views.
Asian American and queer identifying senior Ash Mehta said their parents have had an influential role on their world view. As Mehta has gotten older they have expanded their identity. However, the root of their ideas are still based on their parents’ initial opinions.
“As I have gotten older, I’ve had a lot more opportunities to develop my own thoughts and opinions, but the basic framework I approach life with still comes from the way I was raised,” Mehta said.
Senior Noah Boyarsky said he has become more critical of his parents’ opinions and prefers to find his own information.
“My parents’ beliefs were my starting point,” Boyarsky said. “I’ve since done my own research to figure out how much of those beliefs I’m going to carry with me.”
Tuttle said parents can play an integral role in establishing a safe environment for their children that allows them the opportunity to explore their identity.
“It is like building a house. You have to build the foundation before you get to the roof: identity,” Tuttle said. “In their early years, children learn to build trust. If I ask for something, I’m going to get it. I’m going to be safe.”
Boyarsky said parents play an influential role in their children’s lives because they look up to them for support. As a result, it can be hard for children to voice new opinions that differ from their parents for fear that they won’t be accepted.
“Everyone wants their parents’ support and love,” Boyarsky said. “One easy way…
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