Whether achieving milestones together or sitting in quiet support during difficult times, my friends have played a meaningful role throughout my life. Over the years, I have had the privilege of forming deep connections with friends from diverse cultural backgrounds, varied religious beliefs, and different walks of life.
However, it wasn’t until recent years that I formed deep, meaningful friendships with other Punjabi women. Their presence has provided insights into my ancestry and the hardships faced by those who walked the path before us. Their parents left Punjab, migrated globally, and, like my own parents, found a home in Canada and are navigating how to balance two cultures. I reflect on the parallels and distinctions in our paths, all of which have collectively shaped us and brought us to this point in our lives.
Despite the many ways in which our unique life experiences have molded us, my friendships with women from the same cultural background allow us to connect on certain moral and ethical principles without effort. Encouraging one another to remain committed to our spiritual practices and celebrating religious holidays such as Diwali, Vaisakhi, and Gurpurb have strengthened our bonds and have contributed to a deeper sense of belonging. The celebrating and honoring of these religious holidays with my friends have become an opportunity for learning and healing. Through these events, I slowly gained a safe, nonjudgmental space to ask questions and develop a deeper understanding of our ancestry and Sikh faith.
In Sikhism, a sense of community is highly valued and holds great importance. I can say amongst Asian friendships, the “we” is just as important as the “I.” There is an unspoken understanding of taking care of one another and accommodating each other’s needs. In other words, there is less emphasis on individualism and more value given to the community.
“Chardi Kala” is a Sikh expression about embodying a mental state of…
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